I recently experienced this where I thought that I was falling in love with someone who reciprocated mutually. What I learned from that experience was that the love I have for myself must be stronger than the love I want to give away. That was incredibly painful because I would rather choose him every time. It brings out feelings of rejection, shame, grief, and takes a toll on your self-esteem. I am in the rebuilding phase of this experience. What I know is, I am strong, I am worthy, and one day, there will be someone who sees that in me and loves all of those parts of who I am. It isn't easy. It is incredibly sad at times. I will always love this person because he was my high school sweetheart and most importantly was my best friend. I say was as though it has passed but I will always have these feelings of love, admiration and hope towards him that he will one day come back into my life. Until then or maybe despite my wishes, I have to focus on thriving and loving myself.
Can you stay focused on loving yourself in the midst of loss? I believe you can. I would love to help you with it. I share my story simply to show that I am human just like all others and even when it is tough, you can stand tall in your might.